Sometimes I receive calls asking when a couple should come to counseling and my response varies depending upon the unique situation of each couple.
Some rules of thumb:
1. Communication difficulties
2. Pre- marriage preparation
3. Lots of arguing
4. Being in a "stand off"
5. Feeling stagnant
6. Sexual problems
7. Family issues
8. Parenting differences
9. Feeling misunderstood
10. Feeling unloved or unappreciated
Counseling can be a safe place to share one's own opinions and perspectives with an unbiased mediator.
If you feel stuck and wonder whether your marriage can return to the happy state once experienced you might want to seek counseling.
Counselors assist you in gaining knowledge, information and practical tools to help you achieve the goals and outcomes you seek for your loving, caring partnership.