Client quotes;

"You helped us see things in a different way."

"My perspective is mine, and his is his, neither is right or wrong."

"Thank you for helping me find my own answers and solutions."

"I've never seen things in exactly that manner before, hmm, it makes me reconsider."

As a therapist, I do not have all of the answers to people's problems. I see my role as a helper, guide and conduit to connect people with their own insight and gut which holds the answers and solutions to their problems.

I use strategies to assist in bringing issues to clients' awareness so that they might make their own best decisions for optimal health and well being.

In a safe, secure and warm environment I create a space for clients to show their vulnerability, to share thoughts and feelings without judgement and to allow the client to explore new ways of being in the world.

A therapist's office is merely a microcosm of the world where a person can truly let down, be honest and genuine with themself and a trusted other, a place to recreate oneself in a new and wonderful image.

Therapy breeds growth.

Have you ever found yourself accepting less than respectful, appropriate behavior from your lover?

Have you found yourself making excuses for the person when they treat you unkindly or with disrespect?

Why do you think you have accepted unloving treatment by the person who is supposed to love you the most?

Does your self esteem or lack thereof give the disrespectful partner license to abuse you?

If you find yourself feeling hurt, angry, puzzled, curious and confused about your lovers behavior toward you, I suggest you do some soul searching.

Ask yourself these questions:

1. Do I deserve disrespect?

2. Why have I allowed my lover to be verbally and emotionally abusive?

3. Have I overlooked unloving and cruel behavior just hoping it will change?

4. Do I blame myself when my partner mistreats me?

5. Do I hope for change only to consistently receive unloving gestures?

What might one choose to do if they find them self being disrespected?

Going to a counselor can help sort through confusing relationship issues.