Twitter following is very new to me.

It seems to be a generational reluctance on my part to join the current age of communication technology and to speak the language of the youth.

However, at the behest of my son I have decided to create a Twitter account to better connect with those who may be dealing with marriage, relationship or addiction issues.

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One of the phrases I often hear when in a marriage counseling session with a couple is, "I don't feel appreciated."

Upon exploration it often appears that the enfatuation and attraction has waned and the partners are each yearning to be accepted, validated and valued.

If you find yourself and your spouse in this predicament what are some of the things you might do?

Conducting an informal "needs assessment" with each other might help determine where change needs to occur. If one spouse needs more time, more attention, more affection then creating a plan for change might be indicated.

Allocating specific time to work on one's relationship is integral to continuing a healthy vibrant marriage.

Feeling valued is an important component for a close, special validating partnership.

Make the changes in your marriage beginning today.

“The greatest marriages are built on teamwork. A mutual respect, a healthy dose of admiration, and a never-ending portion of love and grace.”

-Fawn Weaver