Expectations for the " love holiday?" What do you and your partner expect to happen on this holiday?

If you have something in your mind regarding how the celebration might take place on February 14, I highly encourage you to share the expectation with your significant other. If you choose to be surprised, you might be risking disappointment and frustration when the holiday doesn't turn out like as you are planning.

Resentment can set in. Oftentimes my clients tell me that holidays are the worst disappointments because the expectations aren't discussed prior to the special day.

I encourage you to communicate with your lover about how to spend valentines day and to compromise when your visions differ.

Valentines day can be a great opportunity to express your love to your special other.

Be sure you're not disappointed.

Anger turned inward can lead to resentments and depression.

Sometimes we don't realize we're holding onto anger towards our loved ones. Some of the symptoms of this might be;

Less Laughter

Feeling irritated and frustrated more often

Lack of eye contact

Less intimate connection

Turning to others to vent

Feeling down and dejected

Noticing we feel hurt frequently

What can we do if we find we're holding onto resentments?

Honestly sharing our feelings can be helpful.

Recognizing that our own anger has been holding us captive.

Communicate more clearly and openly with our significant other.

Take deep breaths and release the anger and frustration outwardly.

If you find yourself unable to release resentments on your own, a therapist may be a healthy option for dealing with these issues which may lead one to feeling more happy, healthy and well.

Counselors can teach you tools and coping strategies to address holding resentments.

Have you been reluctant to seek therapy?

What is keeping you from helping yourself grow and change in order to become optimally healthy and well?