What did the "Magic" look like when you first met one another? What changed? What is missing? What would it take for you to replace the boredom, going through the motions, the mundaneness of your relationship with vibrancy and aliveness?
Are you willing to engage and invest in the work that it might take to get you the relationship you truly desire? How much time and energy have you expended to create the closeness and intimacy you desire?
Do you often blame your partner? Do you find fault in what he/she does or doesn't do? Have you self-reflected and looked at what part you have played in creating a mundane, boring partnership? Are you looking for an easy out?
Relationships take water, fertilizer, sunshine, cultivation just as does a garden. Are you willing to elicit from yourself some of the ways you might act more loving?
If you need assistance in getting the Magic Garden Relationship to grow, call a therapist to get some clues, tools and help in getting the fruit you desire.