What does your own voice say to you? Do you find yourself being critical? Examples of negative self talk;
"You're too quiet, you're not smart, you're incompetent, things always go wrong, life is too difficult."
Where do these negative messages come from? How can we soften the negative voice and amplify the positive one?
Sometimes our own negative voice has us chasing our tail, going round and round in a circuitous argument where we end up exhausted. Has this ever happened to you? Do you find yourself tired from the obsessive negative thought circle in which we engage?
Cognitive behavioral therapy is helpful for one struggling with negative self- talk. How does it work?
The therapist teaches the client how to become aware of the negative, irrational thoughts and provides exercises to dispute these negative messages and to replace them with realistic ones.
An example; " I am so dumb I always mess things up."
In actuality where do you have examples in your life where you have not made a poor decision? What did it feel like? So the sentence " I always mess up," is inaccurate.
Find a therapist who uses cognitive behavioral therapy to help you get out of the negative, self defeating cycle.
It really works.