Do you and your partner see things differently?
How do you manage differing perceptions within your relationship?
Communication can be complex and clarifying exactly what one is trying to say is an important component toward healthy discussion and better understanding.
Couples often come to counseling with differing points of view which creates dissension, arguments and difficulties.
As a therapist I listen and decipher the communication differences which lead to misunderstandings within couples.
One person's perception of the content, tenor and tempo of the others' message can determine how one reacts to their significant other.
I teach couples techniques which help hone better communication and listening skills. Old patterns of interacting keep relationships stuck and new patterns of talking and listening can change the perceptions of interactions and lead to healthier relating.
I suggest that each person attempt to
"listen for meaning and understanding," which will lead to calmer, better communication.