Unrequited love is defined in the Webster Dictionary as; "one-sided love is love that is not openly reciprocated or understood as such by the beloved." When one's heart attaches to another it is very difficult to detach and move on to life without the beloved. Attachment begins with humans at a very young age and whether one had a healthy attachment with the Mother or Father may dictate how a person later in life attaches in relationships.
Research tells us that emotional pain is as real as physical pain. The phrases, "broken hearted, wounded spirit and crushed ego," are just a few expressions a human feels when love is not reciprocated.
Reframing the love one feels into a healthy expression is very difficult but possible. People have felt love and rejection from the beginning of time.
Ideas to get through a period of unrequited love may include;
1. Seek therapy to work through grief and loss.
2. Set a morning agenda for each day which includes healthy self-care actions.
3. Massage therapy may help one to assuage the numbness of rejection and assist in reattaching with one's true feelings.
4. Create ways to "feel alive."
5. Make a vision board with ideas for finding joy.
6. Seek a spiritual connection through, religion, yoga, meditation or mindfulness.
7. Work on ways to "self-love" and embrace one's own vulnerability and humanness.
8. Talk with trusted friends or family who might understand and support during this difficult time.
9. Embrace the love you were capable of feeling yet not able to express and feel reciprocated and feel grateful that you had the experience.
10. Love your self.
You are lovable despite the other not receiving your gift of love.